Destructive friends

I was over at crankybee’s site today and reading her post about watching what the people with the bodies we would like eat.  And I feel a little guilty now because I ended up leaving a bit of a rant on her site, not directed towards crankybee, but rather more directed at a ‘friend’ of mine.  Or rather a couple of friends of mine.

I go to the same pub a lot.  I’m friendly with a lot of people there, in particular I’m friendly with a lot of the people who work behind the bar, and we often all go out together at night when everyone has finished work.  Mostly I go out with Miss Crazy,Mr English (yum), Mr Gay, Mr Stretch, Miss Slapper etc.  And surprisingly they are the ones who have been the best.  If I say I don’t want to drink because I’m trying to watch what I’m eating and drinking, then they leave it at that.  They don’t push me.  This had me flummoxed when it first happened because if there is a big drinker in Adelaide, then it’s Miss Crazy, and she’s always up for a party.  But she has been fantastic, and is always asking how it’s going and doesn’t push me if I don’t want to drink.

Miss Vapid on the other hand is really starting to annoy the (pardon my language here) fuckers out of me.  I’m getting to the point where I start seething whenever I see her or hear her whiney voice.  We have never been really close, though at one time we were pretty friendly.  But then she went and slept with Mr Dickhead and started flirting with Mr BathtubHead when I was seeing him and things have just gone a little downhill ever since, however I am still nice to her (mostly to her face), because we have so many friends in common I just don’t want to stir the pot.

When I first started doing the whole gym thing, and then the eating right thing, I kind of expected her to support me.  But seriously I must have been dreaming when I thought that.  Because if there is one person out there who seems to be on a mission to destroy my efforts – it’s got to be Miss Vapid.  Every time I say I don’t want a drink, or another drink, she tries to talk me into it.  If I tell her I’m going home to have an early night because I want to get up early to go to the gym, she makes smart arsed comments in front of everyone.  Seriously I don’t know if she is trying to embarrass me or something, but when you have been fat as long as I have it takes a little more than her to embarrass me….

I really don’t understand why she does it either.  Miss Vapid thinks we are wonderful friends.  She tells me things that she won’t tell other people, and we email each other at work a lot, so why would you do these things to a friend?  It’s not like I’m really any competition for her.  Miss Vapid is just shy of 5’7″ (a tiny bit shorter than me) and she is rake thin.  I don’t personally find her figure appealing, because she really is all skin and bones and in a bikini she does NOT look attractive.  But aside from that, men seem to find her reasonably appealing.  So why does she do it?  I realise I keep asking the same question but it’s been bugging me for a while now.

So my question to everyone out there is, do you have ‘friends’ in your life who try to destroy the good you are doing to yourself?  How have you handled it?  Have you ever hit someone for this behaviour?  Because it’s getting to the point where I really just want to put my boxing classes to good use.